Family ties: from time to time
Md Ziauddin Iqbal |
June 19, 2021 1:02:15 PM
The concept of “family” is an absolutely ancient term, which began at the genesis of mankind. Man is a social being, therefore living alone is impossible for any human being. Being ambient through social rituals and religious practice, people like to lead lives in an organized way that generates affection, care, sharing and mutual respect who choose to live together. The family is such an altruistic platform where everyone unanimously feels the responsibility, even the desire to take the greatest care of others without consideration. It’s called the bond, something that is beyond measure by all means, and it’s priceless.
When we began to understand the environment with our common sense and knowledge after birth, we found our parents, sisters, brothers and loved ones affectionate and friendly taking care of us and protecting us from unusual situations. We grew up in a healthy, safe and peaceful environment which taught us to be generous in behavior; thus, we have prepared ourselves with social norms and values to help us become good comrades in society. We felt safe and free to go about our daily business with little hesitation at every stage of life as childhood. It was the flavor of life, the most precious moments of our time. During our childhood, we had a simple way of life that was tangled up without much technological variation. There has not been a frequent change in technology as it is present. Even the lifestyle was not that diverse, relatively easy going. Our parents give their full attention to our education and to the company we meet. Most of the mothers were at home, while the fathers were the breadwinners. Financial solvency was not good, but there was a minor complaint from each family member. Because this amount could have paid for living expenses and made us smile by meeting our minimum requirements, it was possible because our life’s needs were always circled within the income limit, and yet it was never full. high demands. Each day our morning started with taking lessons at school and then sometimes at the playground with close local friends before going to school. We would play a no. from that time the top rated traditional games like football, cricket, top, spinning iron ring, etc. took absolute pleasure until he was tired of running from one end of the open ground and the paths of the house to the other. Playing soccer in the rain was also one of the enjoyable daily events. On vacation, we looked forward to our friends calling to play football in the morning. At the end of the football game, we, the group of friends, would go to the nearest river or pond to take a bath full of mud on the body. It was full of fun. Sometimes parents were annoyed and scolded, but nothing could tie us home to repeatedly enjoy these unlimited joys. During the rainy season, another joyful event was catching fish with fishing rods. The influx of new, fragrant water covered the playgrounds and the open space around our homes, which became the source of many species of fish. We and our family enjoyed catching fish and went to have a mini picnic with all of our friends. In the winter after the end of the school final exam, it was common to have fun with friends by attending a food ingredient sharing like a picnic named “Choruivati”. We also preyed on chicks and also dragonflies and played with other family members at home. All the events were really joyous. These simply show a lucid storyline that portrays strong family ties at such times.
Time spent with the family in the presence of all the members, including the neighbors, constituted a regular appointment during our time. Almost every day we would laugh out loud with gossip, but sometimes we would talk seriously about the annual exam card or critical family issues with neighbors when quarrels between their children arose. We often took free time after dinner and listened to popular radio shows in the middle of the day and early in the evening. There was rarely a television in every house like today. A few houses had this unique large screen box which symbolized prestige and gave them an identity of wealthy to others. As there were few electronic devices available for most families, members would prefer to engage in light group activities for family fun with typical house games like “Ludu”, “Charam-board”, “Baghaduli”, “Pasha,” “Chase” etc., sometimes even neighboring friends also participated. These were full of natural fun and refreshing for the mind. In the spring evening, the sky remained adorned with colorful kites flying from almost all of the building’s roofs and roads. Dragon fight i.e. one kite breaking another kite from the wire was another exciting game and the kids would run around keeping each other behind to see who would pick up the torn kite first. Yarn prepared with broken glass dust and a large bamboo swirl was used to fly kites that made a festival. It just paints a very adorable picture if we look at it all over the decades without any exaggeration.
Nowadays, the everyday image of the family is changed and lost its eternal rhythm by our redundant mechanized way of life. Unfortunately, family time has been replaced by screen time these days. Kids like to stay glued to the phone or tab screen. Different kinds of mobile sets, small but addicting devices are much more enjoyable for them than having a merry time with family. SMS, emotions through emojis have replaced phone calls. The life of teenagers revolves heavily around electronic devices. Social media has taken away our family time. Everyone, regardless of their siblings, cousins, stays busy browsing Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. Although they meet in a place, it very often happens that they do not discuss face to face, remain silent and are immersed in their mobile device. It seems that he cannot live without it and he is giving everything for him. It has reached a serious level of dependence which also destroys human mentality and family ties. Growing up with high technology makes family life unbalanced. In the old days, family reunions were buzzing with laughter and laughter. People liked to have moments. But now people are more inclined to record the moments or watch them with the “Smartphone Slouch”. Therefore, everything has a staged aura. Family values were once brought to the fore, but now they are not so respected. Family members felt compelled to sit down together for meals, which prompted them to interact and share snippets of their day. But the current generation can hardly feel the need to share their thoughts with their family and would rather be locked in their bedroom for hours.
The family bond is a unique virtue that had been cherished and preserved by our ancestors in the past. Quality time with our family is important in building a stronger relationship. Family bonding time builds confidence, teaches children to interact with others, and creates beautiful memories that last a lifetime. Therefore, we need to think about it seriously. Having left the growing mechanized flavor in life, we must completely guide our next generation in the right way so that they can grow up with the proper family support and education. This should be our top priority for restoring the family link before it is in jeopardy.
Mr Ziauddin Iqbal is Senior Managing Director at PKSF, Dhaka